Saturday, May 9, 2009

Sticks and stones

A quote attributed to Astrid Lindgren (author of Pippi Longstocking)

"Above all, I believe that there should never be any violence." In 1978, Astrid Lindgren received the German Book Trade Peace Prize for her literary contributions. In acceptance, she told the following story.

"When I was about 20 years old, I met an old pastor's wife who told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn't believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time. But one day when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking - the first of his life. And she told him that he would have to go outside and find a switch for her to hit him with. The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was crying. He said to her, "Mama, I couldn't find a switch, but here's a rock that you can throw at me."

All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from the child's point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone. And the mother took the boy onto her lap and they both cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind herself forever: never violence. And that is something I think everyone should keep in mind. Because violence begins in the nursery - one can raise children into violence."

Not only is this attributed to one of my favorite childhood authors, but even better, it is about a pastor's wife!


Polly said...

Wow, that is a powerful illustration. Amen. Thanks for posting it, Dulce!

Theresa said...

Wow. That made me cry. Some people tease me and don't understand why I don't spank my children, but this makes it so clear. If you don't mind, I'd love to blog this myself someday.

dulce de leche said...

Of course! I first heard it years ago on bfdc, but it still makes me tear up, too.