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"The truth is that if you enter into battle with a strong willed child, your entire life will turn into a war zone. We will not back down, will not give in, will not surrender. If it truly becomes a fight, chances are good that one will have to defeat the other, in spirit if not physically. And that is to destroy not only part of your child's God-given personality, but also your relationship. Either your child will be deeply imbued with shame and believe that she deserves to be treated that way, or she will continue the fight once she is older and has greater resources."
The conflict for many parents is that they have been told that Godly obedience means that children will comply first and understand later. That is *not* the Hebrew understanding of obedience. From a Hebraic view, it is a process of hearing, understanding and then obeying from the heart.
Another common objection is that parents don't have time to argue over every detail of an instruction before the child complies. Here is the thing: you don't have to. True emergency situations will have a number of differences, including how your child responds to your emotional stress. It is also likely that physically helping a child will be a part of an emergency situation. Furthermore, a history of good reasons for your instructions and connection between you are *more likely* to result in trust when it really counts.
I have come to celebrate my strong willed children, and cannot wait to see how they will change the world. Head over to NPN for the full article! :)