tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post7149783782055501276..comments2023-08-04T06:10:55.445-07:00Comments on Dulce de leche: Frankly, Darling, I Don't Give a ...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-5828408134101601552011-03-26T22:02:46.972-07:002011-03-26T22:02:46.972-07:00:) GrammyK, when I was small, we were never allowe...:) GrammyK, when I was small, we were never allowed to use hate to refer to another person, only to things like veggies. I looked up the dictionary definition of hate and began to use that. Stupid and Shut up were also forbidden. I thought it was silly then, but now those words make me cringe as being very hurtful and disrespectful. I don't allow my kidlets to use them! It sounds like your sweeties grasped that a lot sooner than I did. <3dulce de lechehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641970264436339191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-13115383213904107152011-03-26T21:20:59.954-07:002011-03-26T21:20:59.954-07:00Around our house my kids are very sensitive to &qu...Around our house my kids are very sensitive to "negative" language and won't even say "hate" (like "I hate vegetables") or call people names like "jerk". Ironically they will say "I H-word vegetables" or "Don't be such a J". Too funny! I think it's because they don't want the littles to repeat "bad stuff". So our bad words are just kind of "code" bad words! Ha Ha!!<br /><br />I'm not bothered by sexual innuendo or occasional mild profanity but I think that our speech should be such that if we turned around and found that Jesus were physically present we wouldn't be ashamed of what we had said. <br /><br />Yes, I think our motives and heart attitudes are the most important. I have a hard time with innocently popping off with a remark that turns out more hurtful than I intended. Open mouth insert foot!! This is an area that has caused me a lot of grief in my life. I am a lot better than I used to be--but sometimes my mouth operates faster than my brain! :-(GrammyKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17163894754068556311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-40886728981305475572011-03-24T19:19:53.244-07:002011-03-24T19:19:53.244-07:00Thank you so much for sharing your perspective, Ca...Thank you so much for sharing your perspective, CatholicMommy! I am glad that your husband is considerate and respectful of your convictions. <3 That is definitely important. Deliberately using profanity in your presence would be even more hurtful and offensive than the words themselves to me.dulce de lechehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641970264436339191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-84047026085146601152011-03-24T19:03:19.732-07:002011-03-24T19:03:19.732-07:00My husband and I have talked about this a lot. I a...My husband and I have talked about this a lot. I am bothered by profanity; he uses it all the time with his friends. Notably, I have heard him swear twice in the six years I've known him. He doesn't swear around me because he knows it bothers me. <br />I guess that is another aspect to consider... If you're at all unsure how your audience will receive it, better to err on the side of caution and not use it. (Not causing one to stumble, etc.) But for situations where everyone uses it, like my husband with his friends, I'm not sure if there is a clear-cut answer.<br />I agree with you both that calling someone out about it is pointless. I never scold my husband's friends when they swear around me. :-)CatholicMommyhttp://workingtobeworthy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-38131460477101950642011-03-24T11:33:21.055-07:002011-03-24T11:33:21.055-07:00It is so interesting to hear about the connotation...It is so interesting to hear about the connotation difference in French. I think that how our words are perceived is often as big a part of communication as the dictionary definitions. <br /><br />Your point about being set apart is a good one. I like what you said about not over reacting to it in others without using it ourselves. That is kind of where I am at right now.dulce de lechehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641970264436339191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-72597035813576436772011-03-24T11:11:33.700-07:002011-03-24T11:11:33.700-07:00I agree with you about the cultural component. I l...I agree with you about the cultural component. I lived in France for a year and despite how vulgar the French words actually translate, it just doesn't have the same sort of connotation in French, if that makes any sense. <br /><br />The occasional profanity (or sexual innuendo) doesn't bother me, but sometimes I wonder if it should. I'm not saying be judgmental and legalistic and get all hyped up about it, but I do think we as Christians are called to be different. Sometimes our speech is one of the simplest, most obvious aspects of our lives that non-believers notice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com