tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post4696494081721841806..comments2023-08-04T06:10:55.445-07:00Comments on Dulce de leche: 7 Year HarvestUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-86170992450819043222011-07-01T08:21:16.532-07:002011-07-01T08:21:16.532-07:00I love the way you've talked about punishment ...I love the way you've talked about punishment in the win/lose dichotomy - I don't *want* to always "win" in conflicts with my child. That will only teach him that the stronger/bigger person can control the outcome. Excellent post :)Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-19133825351195414412011-06-30T17:01:44.905-07:002011-06-30T17:01:44.905-07:00Thank you all so much! You fill me with smiles! ...Thank you all so much! You fill me with smiles! :) I am so grateful to be able to encourage other moms. I know how much it meant to me (and still does!) to have other parents tell me that they were glad to have chosen GD and of the good fruit in their families. Please know that each of you has encouraged me!<br /><br />@Crystal, nearly every family that I know who has made the switch has gone through a crazy period where the kids' behavior went downhill pretty drastically, almost as if they were trying to push as hard as possible to find the breaking point where the parents would go back to spanking. The good news is that it was always temporary. :)<br /><br />Love and joy to you all!dulce de lechehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641970264436339191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-63675513871212038412011-06-30T14:38:39.622-07:002011-06-30T14:38:39.622-07:00I love how I read this blog today, of all days, as...I love how I read this blog today, of all days, as this morning I was talking with God about this. As last night was particularly hard and stressful, the thought niggled through my head, well, maybe they wouldn't have done this if we still spanked (my husband has honored my wishes, but says they are worse off now). But the peace that came over me several months ago when I made the decision (after much prayer and research) to not spank was undeniable. And although I have so much opposition,when I have my harvest, the abundance of my "fruit" will surely justify me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-31626563387824182082011-06-29T09:18:27.769-07:002011-06-29T09:18:27.769-07:00This was such a beautiful and inspiring post. Tha...This was such a beautiful and inspiring post. Thank you, Dulce! My own unhealth has been so clearly revealed to me since having children. It's been quite the journey so far, with some days better than others. Reading about your own journey was very encouraging.Hippie Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-9171447590629442002011-06-29T09:00:48.877-07:002011-06-29T09:00:48.877-07:00So, so good. I love how you've walked both roa...So, so good. I love how you've walked both roads, and have seen years into it, how beneficial gentle parenting truly is. So encouraging and inspiring for those of us just starting out! I will definitely be sharing. :)Rosemaryhttp://her.joshandrosemary.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-43176567704348055742011-06-29T08:23:10.223-07:002011-06-29T08:23:10.223-07:00I love this. My son is only 7 months old, but I wa...I love this. My son is only 7 months old, but I want to discipline gently as he grows. And you are such an inspiration, as a family who not only uses GD but thrives on it and is better because of it, it makes me know that it can be done. Thanks!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08641509566095727946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-89283673646786424342011-06-29T04:55:09.783-07:002011-06-29T04:55:09.783-07:00Thank you both so very much! I am so sorry for th...Thank you both so very much! I am so sorry for the pain that you have gone through, but so happy that you are intentionally finding healing and not passing the same destructive patterns on to your children. <3 And I am grateful that we are able to encourage and build each other up, too! <3dulce de lechehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641970264436339191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-53860000404849409602011-06-29T04:45:39.490-07:002011-06-29T04:45:39.490-07:00i grew up in a home with a mother who had intense ...i grew up in a home with a mother who had intense inner hurts and issues. she also did not want to work on them at all. punitive discipline was definitely used as a tool against me for not catering to things like her pride and allowed her to take her anger and impatience out on me. <br /><br />i grew up very confused that on Sunday, i was taught to live one way, and then at home, how we lived was not just different, but sometimes completely opposite. <br /><br />i couldn't explain it at the time, but i never felt that spanking was appropriate. it just felt wrong. even when they sat down and told me they loved me and worked hard at that time to not do it in anger. it still felt wrong. i didn't understand why, if they loved me so much, why that would be communicated in hitting me? i wasn't allowed to hit them or anyone else. <br /><br />it honestly did feel like it was either them or me, and we were against each other, competing all the time. i never understood why we couldn't all be on the same team, why there had to be all the conflict all the time, why we all couldn't win.<br /><br />going through all of this though, has made me choose the direction of dealing with my own inner hurts and issues. i wanted to get good at that before i got married, before i had kids.<br /><br />when i got pregnant, i definitely started researching alternate strategies. i had never heard of gentle parenting, but i was describing it to my husband. i knew exactly what i was looking for.<br /><br />i just didn't see example of this style of punishment in the bible. it's not in the story of the prodigal son. as i studied the character of God, i knew there had to be a different way.<br /><br />my children will never know what it is liked to be spanked or shamed or isolated/alienated types of punishments. i'm exceedingly glad that we all get to be on the same team. that we all get to win. :D <3cherieannnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7084876109811698517.post-91382891327819737012011-06-29T03:28:00.859-07:002011-06-29T03:28:00.859-07:00THis is such an honest and open post - thank you f...THis is such an honest and open post - thank you for sharing. I love how you emphasise this is not about 'winning' or 'losing' and that gentle parenting really can be win-win for all and that we are all on the same side anyway!<br />Imagine a world where the next generation believe that to be true and go on to resolve all conflict with peace, compassion and love. Do you see how powerful your parenting technique is for the future - go you!mrs green @ littlegreenbloghttp://littlegreenblog.comnoreply@blogger.com